Perfectionism is a trait I often see in my practice with folks I work with. They notice themselves being awfully critical of themselves, their behaviors and their relationships to others. This can show up in unhelpful ways like people pleasing, avoiding confrontation, coping mechanisms that feel addictive to control difficult feelings and sensation. Unpacking perfectionism in therapy can look like:

• Recognizing the role that perfectionism has played, examining things like codependent patterns that you may or may not have had to navigate

• Unlearning unhelpful messages about what it means to be productive, “fit in,” stay safe, and communicate needs

• Identifying and tuning your relationship to your own desires and needs

Therapy can help you learn how to prioritize your self care, practice assertive communication, embrace imperfection